Have you ever felt incapable of being loved? Is it because of rejection from an important person in your life? Or is it from the guilt that you live with from past mistakes?
I have not made the best decisions in life. There are consequences I live with because of past mistakes. There is no reason at all to stand before people with any plea for them to love me. There are times that I have felt unlovable. Sound familiar?
If so, let me tell you why thinking that you are incapable of being loved is a lie.
Can a person be incapable of being loved?
There are many reasons that we think we are incapable of being loved, but I believe these thoughts are directly related to our past mistakes.
I lived in fear of God’s judgment most of my life because I did not understand the truth of His Word. I believed in God, but I did not think He loved me. How could he when I couldn’t do things right?
I kept waiting for God to thump me on the head for the mistakes I had made. I feared the punishment that I knew I deserved. But this is one of the many misconceptions about God that we somehow learn as we grow.
The danger in living with these thoughts will make us miss out on God’s love for us.
How are we loved?
As God’s children, we can remember that He loves us. The reason God sent Jesus is that He loves us.
He saw our sin, and He knew that we would never get it right. So, Jesus came down to be the sacrifice needed to bring us to God. The way to God was made easy for us.
We didn’t have to do anything. Jesus is the one who did all the work by laying His life down for us. He did this because He loves us.
"For God so loved the world, He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16, ESV).
All we had to do is believe.
"Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God" (John 3:18, ESV).
We no longer need to fear God’s judgment because the cross paid the price for our sins. Because of this sacrifice, those who believe will not face punishment.
"There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love" (I John 4:18, ESV)
We then can abide in God’s love by obeying Him.
I am grateful to Jesus for being the sacrifice for my sin, and it is this gratitude that makes me want to obey His principles. As we abide in God’s love, we no longer fear facing Him in the future because there is no judgment for believers.
Instead of sitting in self-condemnation, we can remember that God loves us, that Jesus died for us, and we no longer are condemned.