I have had several relationships, numerous cars, too many jobs; well, the list goes on. And most of the choices made were based on how I was feeling at the time. I am not sure how I learned to do this, but I have made most of my decisions by following my heart.
Some people believe that we should follow our hearts. They say there are fewer regrets, and we will have more self-respect if we follow our hearts. But, how well of a decision do we make when it is rooted in emotion?
Can you trust your heart?
I have learned from experience, and maybe you have too, that there is danger in making decisions based on how we feel. Since our choices can affect those around us, we will leave ourselves sitting in regret if we have made the wrong one.
Where is the self-respect in that?
I have made these decisions, the ones that affect others around me. It is easy to listen to the voice of our hearts and completely miss the broken heart sitting next to us.
By the time you see the damage, it is too late for repair.
Have you heard what the Bible says?
The Bible tells us to seek wisdom when making decisions (James 1:5). I believe this is because we cannot trust what our heart is telling us.
Jeremiah says the heart is deceitful.
“The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately sick; who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9, ESV).
James tells us that we can be tempted to sin by following our desires.
"But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death" (James 1:14-15, ESV).
In Matthew, we read that evil comes out of the heart.
"For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander" (Matt 15:19, ESV).
I could go on listing more verses from the Bible, but I think you get the idea.
These are verses that I memorized as a kid but somehow let the truth slip by as I followed my heart’s desires. Making choices based on how we feel is a lie that has deceived many women, myself included.
When we follow our heart’s desires and do not take the time to think things through, a decision made might hurt someone close to us. Seeking God’s truth for direction is how I stopped hurting others around me.
We have the power of freedom over this lie. We can keep following our hearts’ desires or let God direct our steps. The choice is ours.