We can make choices based on how we feel.
Making choices based on how we feel is a lie that has deceived many women, myself included. We buy into the clichés, like “follow your heart” or “if it feels good, do it.” We believe that since it feels good, it should be the right decision but then later wonder why our lives are a mess. Life doesn’t just happen. Making good choices is a necessity. But should we follow our hearts or do what feels right when making decisions?
How do the choices we make affect our lives?
The danger in making decisions based on how we feel can affect those around us. When we follow our heart’s desires and do not take the time to think things through, a decision made might hurt someone close to us. We can be left with horrible consequences if we do not take the time to think through our choices.
The Bible warns us about following our hearts. Jeremiah says the heart is deceitful (Jeremiah 17:9). In James 1:14, he tells us that we can be tempted to sin by following our desires. Doing something that feels good does not always mean that it is right for us. There are other things and people to think about when making decisions. God gave us a mind, and he expects us to make wise choices, which means thinking things through (Jeremiah 17:10).
How to make Biblical decisions.
The first thing the Bible tells us to do when making a decision is to seek wisdom. In James 1:5, he tells us to ask God for wisdom. I sought wisdom from every place except God in my life, and I live in the consequences of that choice. Today, I ask God for understanding, as suggested in James, and have found that my decisions based on God’s wisdom have brought many blessings, despite the past consequences. We can also seek counsel from others but should do so from those who get their knowledge from God (Proverbs 13:20). Waiting on God is also very important when making decisions (Psalms 37:7). When we wait on God’s timing, we will not jump ahead and control the situation.
We make better decisions by thinking them through instead of letting our feelings decide. We do this by getting to know God through scripture and applying His principles to our lives.